Ending a Relationship

May 06 2010

Tagged Under : abusive, adulterer, affair, cheated, decision, Ending a Relationship, patch up

If you have ever thought of ending a relationship, then you’re faced with a dilemma and a very hard decision to make. When you have been with another person for a long time, it’s not going to be easy to say goodbye. But from time to time when you learn to end a relationship this could be the best thing you can do for the two of you.

If you actually loved the person you’re with, you may speculate as to when a relationship should end and why. You might consider just for the reason that you love him or her; you should keep on and work things out. And remarkably that it is often worth a try.

Numerous people surrender with their relationships before they’ve actually tried to patch up the relationship. Because it’s hard, they give up instead of working on their problems. This is sad in many ways, because there are many couples that could most likely be happy together if only they weren’t afraid to try and work things out.

However there are other people that have problem after problem and keep on working hard when they should just give up. Sometimes the problem is right in front of them. Their partner serial adulterer and they keep taking him back. Or their partner keeps repeating same old mistakes and letting them down and disappointed.

What is likely that’s happening is that they don’t want to end the relationship. Afraid of being alone and stop them from moving on.

There are situations that obviously indicate you should tell when to end a relationship. If your partner is abusive and you don’t feel safe, it’s time to get out, there are no excuses for this kind of behaviour in a relationship.

There are however other things are less sure. For example if your partner has cheated, does that always mean it’s time to leave? Some people can get over one mistake like that. They sometimes end up with a stronger relationship after the affair. But this all depends on how the other person reacts and accepts it.

But more often betrayal will be very hard to get past. Even if it never ever to happen again, but being hurt is something that will be hard to let go after being cheated on. For the one who cheated will ultimately get exhausted of the suspicion and guilt.

Being cheated in a relationship, it’s not easy to decide if it should end on those grounds alone. You have to really talk about the whole thing concerned. From trust to fear of it happening again, it should all be put on the table in an open and honest discussion.

If you have in reality a strong desire to be with someone else, should you end it? These types of feeling are normal. You can even have fantasies about other people. But if you’re frequently thinking that you’d be better off with someone else, maybe you really would be.

It’s not always easy to see when to end a relationship, but if you know you’ve tried and exhausted all other options and it’s still not working, then it may be time to go as long as it is a mutual agreements by the two of you.